If you or your partner are considering separation or divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. Discernment Counselling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your relationship.

 

Discernment Counselling is a specialised approach for couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship and not sure that regular relationship counselling would help, while the other is “leaning in” and wants to rebuild the relationship.

 

I will help you decide whether to try to restore your relationship to health, move toward separation or divorce, or take a time out and decide later.

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The goal is not to solve your relationship problems, but to see whether they are solvable. You will each gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.

 

You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about the relationship at the moment. No one is cast as the one to blame.

 

You will come in as a couple but some of the most important work happens in individual conversations with me. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.

 

If one of you is leaning towards separation, I will respect your reasons, while also making space to explore the possibility of restoring the relationship to health.

 

I will emphasise the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.

 

Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counselling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and the subsequent are 1.5 or 2 hours.

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